As far as i can remember, this is the first time i'm doing my year-end post in an unfamiliar environment. i'm actually at a chalet in pasir ris with some friends. the whole thing was quite spontaneous, like we made all the plans within the past week or so. there's a lull in the activities now, so i guess i'm hoping to finish up the post in the next...hour? or at least make decent progress now and publish before midnight.

the usual things first: theme of the year. i was looking through my past themes (to avoid reusing the previous years' themes), and was pleasantly surprised to find that this year's idea hadn't be used yet. it's a bit weird. because it's something that i've been exposed to since secondary school. the theme this year is just 3 simple words, "expect the unexpected". that came from my old coach, who used it to prepare us for competition. and when i graduated and became his assistant, the meaning evolved to remind me how to deal with various ridiculous things that may have come up during training. although i know what it means, i still find it a bit hard to apply in daily life, simply because unexpected situations are, well, unexpected. although i do have like certain contingency plans, there are situations that blow even those plans out of the water...situations like my professor leaving, and the whole relationship thing. those were 2 things that probably nothing on earth would have prepared me for, save them actually happening...which they unfortunately did. the professor thing has more or less been settled already, so i'm fine about it. the relationship thing is still in progress, but i'm sure that it will be a valuable experience, and i hope that i can laugh about it when it's over. right now it's doubtful, but in the long run, it'll probably be ok.

in terms of research/academics, i'm moving closer to my goal. completed my classes, and TA requirement (less about 6 hours). research has taken a major hit, considering my pending change in research area. but the current word is that my 4 years may reset, so that kind of works out? just that i graduate a bit late, but hopefully i graduate with no further incident.

finance-wise, i THINK i saved overall. that's good, because with the extension in candidature, i will probably need to get another car after the current COE expires in early 2017. or i could rely on public transport for the last...3 or 4 semesters? ah well. will cross that bridge at the appropriate time. admittedly, i think i could have been a bit more frugal, but what the heck. i have a decent-enough-sized bit of cash in my account if anything bad should happen. *touch wood*

there's one thing i'm quite proud of this year, and that is the beginning of becoming more open in terms of telling my friends stuff. once again, this is another expect the unexpected thing, because i seriously didn't expect so many people to take it so well. i should have more faith in people, and trust my own character-reading skills more. of course, it's also a reminder not to get too complacent and go blabbing to any old person on the street. not everyone may react so nicely, because not everyone knows me or cares for me the way my friends do.

speaking of friends, i'll just sidetrack to talk about my meeting with a psychologist friend. won't go too far into details, but basically i learnt that there's a difference between self-esteem and self-regard. what people normally think of as self-esteem (ie. what you think of yourself) is actually the definition of self-regard. self-esteem is what you think others think of you. i imagine that it sounds confusing at first, so read it slowly again and process. anyway, he told me that how i perceive myself may be (actually most likely is) different from what other people think of me. and that i should not project my perspective onto others, ie. don't assume that they think of me the same way as i think of myself. it'll take some effort, i expect.

so, on to other less significant things, like judo. it hasn't been a good year for my judo. messing up grading, probably getting dropped from the national team, being suspended from refereeing. i don't really want to assign blame, but i hope that as time goes by, the proper investigations will be carried out, and everything goes back to being more-or-less normal. i figure that there's still decent time to get the necessary accreditation. current sights are set on continental by 30 years old, which is in 3 years and 10 months.

well...think that's it. all things considered, it's been a pretty bad year, but most of the bad stuff happened around the past 2 months, so they're more fresh in my mind. perhaps that's why my year-end posts tend to be more influenced by the happenings of november and december, and this november and december hasn't been exactly happy. but well, i trust the sine/cosine graph of life. if 2014 has been a downward trend, 2015 should look up...hopefully. i'll be optimistic and hope that things will get better. the new year's post might be a bit late, or even delayed by a day, considering that there are major drunk plans tonight. well, let's see.

-random thought of the day: Take a step back and things will be clear.-

Based on the past few days, it seems that there's too much drama in this whole relationship business. i'll never understand how my friends seem to have such smooth love lives, relatively speaking. like among the chem kids (and a senior), the present pattern seems to be guy asks person he likes out (some handicraft project like a jar of stars optional but recommended), person says yes, happily ever after. well, not quite. i mean, there are small-ish arguments here and there, but the general trend is a positive one, like their relationships are growing stronger over time. sometimes i wonder if they have it easier. and if they do, why? or perhaps they're not telling everything. i mean, we're close enough that i consider them as brothers. but still, there are some things that people just find too difficult/embarrassing/inappropriate to bring up in normal conversation. trust me, i know that first-hand.

speaking of relationships, one of my friends just gave birth! well, no. his wife did. they started dating in JC or secondary school (i can't remember which), and got married last year. their baby (named Emma) was born one year, one month, and one day after their wedding dinner. interesting trivia like this is always easy to remember. so we attended the full-month celebration-cum-baby shower on saturday. it was quite a quiet thing, just close friends and family, according to my friend, the new dad. looking at the baby, i felt...weird. definitely not in the creepy twilight imprinting way (you know what? just kill me for even knowing about that reference), but it's just the thought that she'll be growing up, and in a few years' time, she'll be able to recognize people. and if the chem kids' friendship maintains (which is very very likely), i'll be a part of her life. in fact, she'll have a lot of uncles (and potential aunts) to care for her as well, as will any/all of the future kids of anyone in the group. it's kind of overwhelming, thinking about it. that's something i didn't really do growing up, meeting my parents' friends. i wonder why. i mean, i know like 2 or 3 names off-hand, but that's about it. and in my whole lifetime so far, i've only seen (some of) these people less than 5 times. if my friends will allow it, i hope to be able to care for their kids as if they were my own...only to give them back when they become too much of a handful. after all, there are reasons why i don't intend on having kids, and that's one of them. the having to care for them 24/7 thing, i mean.

to briefly catch you up on the relationship matter, there were 2 significant events: dinner with the person on friday, and a group karaoke session (including the 2 people involved) yesterday. during the dinner, i kind of made a complete fool of myself. you'd think that at the ripe old age of 26, i'd have given up doing that some time ago, or at least be severely out of practice. apparently not. apart from when i'm getting grilled by my professor about research, i have never felt more of a moron in this past year than i did that night. but was it worth it? probably. that person was nice and understanding, and agreed on most of the points that i brought up. they also have their own issues to deal with, so i understood that too. the thing that's most important to me is that we have a common understanding, and we both accept the situation as it is right now, and are in decent agreement on how we're going to progress from there. so that's something.

karaoke yesterday was fun. i think it's the first time i've done karaoke without alcohol in my system. consequently, the usual high feeling wasn't all there, but it was still enjoyable. didn't go all out as i do with the chem kids, but i still screamed along to some of the songs. or to use some chinese slang, i killed some chickens. was good for stress relief, though someone kept choosing emo chinese songs which i didn't know how to sing. good also, i guess. gave my throat time to rest in-between screaming sessions.

so after karaoke, i kind of got the other person alone and asked about their relationship with that person. the official stand is that they're friends, so the playing field is even in that regard. and as i made it clear, i'd back off if they got together. but for now, the gloves are off. ok...i used nicer words, considering that other person is a bit...fragile, but the meaning's there. i later found out that the other person was jealous or something after knowing for sure that i do like that person, so it seems that the pieces of the puzzle don't exactly fit, or make up the picture as advertised on the box. hey, new analogy! but yes, i think i'm going to be stubborn about this a bit more, until anything between them is officially announced. something tells me not to give up without a fight. and although i sympathize with the other person's fragility (they haven't had an easy life), it's no reason for me to so-called "let them win", right? after all, the events are independent. whether the competition is fragile or not, i'd fight (not physically. well, maybe physically, if push came to shove) for the person i like. another separate person i talked to said that i was being tactless, and i kind of agree in hindsight. guess it's my desire to have the facts laid out in the open and to solve things ASAP taking over. i just hope that the 2 key people see my intentions for what they really are, and not that i'm trying to be intimidating, kaypoh, or stalker-ish or anything. well, maybe kaypoh, though it's an unintended consequence.

but well, all that drama aside, the most important thing to remember is that that is just one aspect of life. there are other things, like judo, research, other friends, personal development, etc etc. i should definitely not let the relationship thing take over my life. it's hard though. i know i agreed to be friends with that person, and that person agreed too. but there have been these odd moments when i think we somehow connect more so than usual. subtle things like significant looks, raised eyebrows, smiles which quickly escalate to laughter for absolutely no reason...man, i sound like a lovestruck teenager. probably not too far from the truth. as a result, i could be really really reading too much into all this stuff. sucks. why can't people be honest about their feelings? the world and all its affairs would be so much simpler. you know, i think i'll make that a 2015 resolution. to be honest about my feelings.

as usual, it doesn't feel like this coming thursday will be the start of a new year. but well, calendars don't lie. for once, i have new year's plans! major shocker, right? so what's happening is that a group of friends booked a chalet, and we're spending a night over. and wouldn't you guess it, the 2 people will be there as well. so much for not letting the relationship aspect take control. well either way, the chalet looks poised to be a turning point, either for better or worse. just have to see how things unfold, and act appropriately. whatever happens, i hope i handle it in a way that i can look back on without cringing. even though i'll be out of the house, the usual year-end post should still be on-schedule. not sure about the new year's day post though. might be too tired and/or hungover. i'll do my best. i'm already planning to break my east coast tradition this year, don't want to rock the boat too much as far as blogging traditions go. suddenly seems like there's not enough time to get things done, though. think it's the usual end-of-year feeling. must remind myself that although our time is finite, there's more of it than i think there is.

-random thought of the day: Thankfully all this mess happened during a downtime period.-

I'm sorry for the massive outpouring of negativity in the last post. if anyone's still keeping track, i'm feeling much better as compared to 24 hours ago. although this christmas is still kind of sucky, it could have been so so much worse. i am insanely grateful to a few friends, as well as to my chemical engineer cousin, for being there for me when i needed it. in fact, my cousin wrote me something incredibly powerful. it goes:

"I will pray for you to be happy, healthy and well. That you will find someone someday who makes your heart sing. That you will experience all the joy of life and love. And that people will accept you for you."

the message hit me so hard, i actually cried worse than last night. i'm talking full-blown waterworks here, mucus and all. difference here is that these were tears of happiness. this is one of those things that i will definitely look back on and seek comfort in/draw strength from in times of trouble. for cousins who have not physically seen each other in more than 5 years, and whose primary mode of communication is commenting on each others' blog posts, this is beyond anything i could have hoped for/dreamt of/imagined. like i posted alongside it on my facebook, it's the best christmas present i've ever received. even now, tears still threaten to fall whenever i read it. oddly, i hope that never changes.

my cousin was also instrumental in shifting my perspective. i think that my rational assessment was blocked by the fact that i find this person really attractive, so like a "they can do no wrong" kind of thing is going on in my mind. but once i get past that, i might start to see their flaws, or find out that one of their character traits makes it impossible between us. what's more, we're 6 years apart, so we are at very different places in life, and we will more likely than not want different things at our current respective life stages. so there's that. and i've not known this person for long. i can't possibly judge their character accurately based on my severely limited information. to bring up a minor point, if the lab transfer goes through, i will be kept extremely busy playing catch-up in the organometallics lab. consequently, that person might feel neglected, which is not fair to them either.

the other issue is that this person seems to have very recently got together with another person (yes, it's confusing). i promised myself a long time ago that i wouldn't try to chase someone who was already involved in a relationship. the scary thing is how fast their relationship is progressing! like, all 3 of us met at the same time, which was this past saturday. the 2 of them have gone on a date, and one of them even slept over at the other person's house. don't know if i'm way way behind the times, but to me, sleeping over doesn't seem like something you do on the first date.

worst thing is that the other person (the one whom i'm not interested in) is kind of leaving hints in our whatsapp group (with many other people as well) that their friendship not all is as it seems. for someone who is interested in the person that that person is seemingly together with, it hurts. yes, i know that that person is young, stupid, and attention-seeking. it doesn't reduce my urge to slam their head into a wall, though. i've honestly lost count of how many times that thought's crossed my mind. was going to say "throw that person" at first, but i remembered that judo can't be used for evil. yes, i will not deny that this is evil and petty of me. it's the jealousy. natural response. i figure it's ok as long as i don't act on these impulses.

well. i think i finally saw open for this situation. i will meet the person i'm interested in tomorrow, and tell them upfront that i like them, but i want to get to know them better first, take things easy. in the event that they are really together with the other person, i will back off as gracefully as i can, and hope that we can set up mutually agreeable boundaries. more importantly, i hope that we can remain friends. people say that there are many fish in the sea. but no matter what, the feeling of having an extra-shiny fish slip away still sucks.

really, i think i'm too old for all this teenager-ish drama. makes me regret not starting the whole dating thing sooner. at the same time, i'm happy that i waited, because this kind of drama would have severely messed teenage me up. well, everything happens for a reason, and that reason is either (1) to make you a better person, or (2) to show you what kind of person you should not be.

-random thought of the day: I have amazing, accepting people in my life.-

Discovered something about myself while driving around aimlessly just now. apparently, i can't cry while driving. it's good from a safety perspective, since tears mess my vision up like you wouldn't believe. but now that i'm back home and blogging, i can feel the tears building up in my eyes. i'm actually not really that shy to admit that i cry from time to time, usually thrice a year maximum. it's a natural way of relieving stress when things become too overwhelming, as they did today. normally, i'm pretty good at handling stressful things, or venting my stress through other outlets, like blogging, or anger/raging in a pinch. but the combination of 2 things, both of which are really important to me, caught me completely off-guard. it's largely because i didn't expect one of them to happen, and i expected the other's magnitude to be much less. the former refers to a potential relationship problem (to be explained in much greater detail later), while the latter refers to the talk with my professor.

i had really thought and hoped that my professor would be nice about it. really. i was hoping to be in and out of his office in 15 minutes maximum, no fuss, no nonsense. the meeting dragged on to 40 minutes instead. i think that i have not felt as much anger in this whole year as i did in those 40 minutes. so basically it started out calmly enough, with me telling my professor that i had reached a decision, and that i wanted to go to the organometallics professor's lab. things started heading south once those words left my mouth. to say he was taken aback would be quite the understatement. more like he was completely blindsided. he said that he didn't understand why i even approached the guy, that it would be bad for my QE, that my funding situation wouldn't allow it blah blah. stuff i'd heard before. i told him that i had considered things very carefully and based on the facts i had, that would be the best move for me. he didn't seem to think so.

next, he told me that he'd been talking to the japanese professor, and he showed me an email where the japanese professor accepted me into his group. that's when i got really angry. you see, here's the chronology:
sunday - japanese professor sends acceptance email
monday - with nothing heard, i email the organometallics professor to tell him that i'd join his lab.
monday, slightly later - he replies in the affirmative.
monday, even later - after receiving the confirmation, i emailed the japanese professor to say that since i hadn't received word, i had made other arrangements.
monday latest - japanese professor replies, apologizing for not contacting me, and says that joining another group might be better for me. i then assume that he was being a bugger.
today - my professor FINALLY shows me the email, making me realize that i'd maligned the japanese professor.

the problem here is twofold: first, my professor delayed in giving me such a critical piece of information. if the roles had been reversed, i would have immediately forwarded the email to my student, and asked him to reevaluate his options given the new news. not that my decision would have changed, but i would have replied the japanese professor in a different way. that's the second problem. my reply kind of implied that it was his fault for not contacting me, when in actual fact, he had contacted my professor and therefore had fulfilled his due responsibility. and now that i've sent that email, it's bound to be offensive. the only possible defence i have is ignorance, because i was not privy to the information at an earlier date. and who's to blame? partially me, for sending the damned email in the first place. but i refuse to shoulder the blame entirely by myself. because if the information had travelled a bit faster, everything would be safe and neutral.

even then, i didn't see the previous messages, meaning that they could have had some secret negotiation, like the japanese professor being a dummy supervisor, or that he gets some other benefit (eg. HPLC use, or chiral columns) in return for taking me in. i wouldn't be surprised in any way. but i figure that since i don't plan on ending up there, i shouldn't worry too much about their plans.

so by that time i think you'd understand why i was quite upset already. then, my professor pulls the guilt card, by saying how disappointed he was that i seemed to not trust him, and that i seemed not to believe that he had my best interests in mind. BUT CAN YOU BLAME ME!? he's been so sneaky about this whole thing that honestly, i wouldn't stay even if he begged me, relieved me of safety lead duties, promised that i'd publish 5 JACS papers per year, and graduate a semester early. for the sake of argument, let's just assume that he's really looking out for me. if that were the case, i think he'd just offer his opinions, but still respect my choice and help me get to where i wanted to go, instead of what he's doing now, which is imposing his will upon me. no matter how well a plan has been thought out, the biggest variable is still the unpredictability of the human element in the plan.

at that point, i think he realized that no matter what persuasion tactics or threats he threw at me, my heart and mind were both set on leaving. so he told me to pack everything up neatly, clean up both my fume hood and student room place, collate my data, and leave. i was more than happy to do that. but he had to throw in another threat, which was that if i didn't clean up and hand over properly, and future recommendation letters that i ask him to write would contain "the truth", as he put it...to which i internally thought, 'please go build the biggest kite you can and fly it, preferably off a cliff'. there's no way i'd ever approach him for any help ever again. the way i see it, he's wrecked any chance of a cordial relationship. as it is, i can sense that he's already reluctant to do all that he can to ensure a smooth transition. i'm ok if he doesn't want to help, as long as he doesn't meddle and make the situation worse.

the session ended with 2 questions: (1) would i be ok with him contacting the organometallics professor to explain the situation? i replied yes. transparency, right? (2) would i like him to maintain the channel of communication with the japanese professor, in case things don't go well with the organometallics professor? i replied yes as well. good to have backups, though i'm not sure how that will work now with the email i sent. i really hope that the deal goes through. all things considered, it could have gone way way better. i don't want to think (too) badly of my professor, but i'm really praying hard that he'll just report the facts, and not psycho the organometallics professor in any way. though the latter doesn't seem to be that easily-psychoed. ex-regular SAF officer leh, don't play play. but well, the cards are all on the table as far as i'm concerned. the moves are between the higher-ups now. i believe that the organometallics professor will fight for me. just hoping he's determined enough, and has strong enough resources and bargaining power.

now for the second issue. i don't make it a secret that i've never been in a relationship. consequently, i'm not at all experienced in matters of the heart. oddly, my friends still do approach me for relationship advice sometimes. when that happens, i rationally analyze the data, and give them my unbiased opinion, weighted to account for what i know of my friend's personality (as well as the partner's if i know them). for instance, if the partner of a normally laid-back friend says he's lazy, i'd tell him not to worry too much. maybe act a bit more on the ball. but when it comes to my own cases, my rationality flies out of the window. that hasn't been an issue so far, because there was essentially zero chance that anyone i liked would like me back, due to...reasons. but now, that chance just appeared very very recently. admittedly, it's slim bordering on anorexic, but it's definitely there. that was the meaning of the clue i left in the random thought, by the way. part of the lyrics go "for the first time in forever, i'm getting what i'm dreaming of...a chance to change my lonely world; a chance to find true love"...although i'm not stupid enough to think that true love lies with someone i've known for barely a week (though the idealistic romantic side of me is kind of hoping that it does). regardless, the situation scares me like you absolutely wouldn't believe. although a recent update as i'm typing this says that the chance may be gone again due to other reasons...so i really really don't know.

the thing i learnt today is that it was all fine and well when i was the third party giving advice. previously, i felt certain (negative) emotions when it came to my own love life, but never very strongly because i knew of the zero-chance thing. now that there's a chance, those emotions intensified exponentially (anything is infinite times more than zero, because dividing anything by zero gives infinity), and several new emotions were thrown into the mix. somehow, i'm finding myself to be incapable of dealing with the new influx of emotions, in terms of how strongly i'm feeling them. although it's been a while since the last time i've said this, i have to admit that i'm finding myself to be at a complete loss.

you know what? screw this. i have to approach this like i approach most other issues. openly, directly (yet tactfully), and most importantly, with whatever confidence i can muster. either way, dancing around the situation won't do me any good, and i'm not letting go without a fight. hopefully it doesn't come down to a fight between me and someone else. best case scenario is that the other person feels similarly, and we click. second best case is that the other person feels similarly, but can't commit just yet due to whatever issues. i can wait, provided they give their assurance and a somewhat reasonable end-date (say, 6 months to a year tops?). third best (or second worst) would be that the person is hung up over someone else, and totally can't commit with no end-date in sight. worst is if that person was available, but something happened today and they JUST got together with someone else. i might just die a little inside if that happened, and be extra extra volatile for a while. then of course there's the whole other issue of me being not particularly far from attractive, but that's a whole other can of worms which i don't want to touch at this time.

no matter what happens, even if the outcome falls outside my predictions (for better or worse), as per what has been internalized within me since JC days, the earth will keep spinning, life will go on. one lost opportunity doesn't spell doomsday. although i will admit, losing this particular opportunity will hurt more than expected because based on what i know, the person in question is...unbelievable. not perfect, definitely, but damned close. or maybe i haven't had the time to uncover their flaws yet. nevertheless, the current thought is that if we can't be together, i would like to retain them as a friend. i'm sure that shouldn't be too hard. i'm pretty good at separating friends from potential love interests, as long as the lines have been clearly defined. then maybe if/when the situation improves, i'll try asking again.

i think the logical-ness of scientific training has wrecked my ability to rely on my emotions for guidance, meaning that my meyer-briggs test type has probably changed too. i'm...undecided about how i feel about this. therefore, it would be pointless to talk about it unless/until i form some kind of opinion. so i'll put this on hold.

seems that driving has become so routine that it's no longer as therapeutic as when i only had the car on weekends. tradeoffs i guess. i think that driving and the assorted judgement calls, reactions, and procedures have all become muscle memory, which means that they operate on a somewhat subconscious level now, and that i can use my brain actively for other things. or to put it the other way round, driving can no longer distract me. seriously. thoughts kept flying through my head even as i went one round around half of the island. from bishan to toa payoh via thomson road, up the PIE, to eunos and marine parade, up the ECP to the TPE, then CTE back to bishan. ok. maybe not half the island. more like 1/5 to 1/6. but you get the idea.

in the spirit of christmas, i'll be generous and give another random thought of the day: this is turning out to be the worst christmas in my memory by far. one thing may be able to turn it all around, and that's my meeting with the person on friday. if you've read this far, thank you, you must really care for/about me. either that, or you're way too free and way too kaypoh. thank you regardless. and if there's a chance that you'll see me in real life anytime soon, please understand that i may be super irritable over the next few days, and please forgive me if i snap at you. ok that's it. didn't really cry (yet), though things might change once i'm in bed. hoping not, but i do know that crying is a natural process, and that it's somehow therapeutic. see how.

Few important things to mention today, first of which being results. i'm usually good with doing results posts on results day itself, but somehow i wasn't really in a blogging mood yesterday. so...sorry for that. this results post will hopefully be my last one ever from NUS. interestingly/ironically, it's also the shortest results post i've ever posted. without further ado...

CM5224: B+
like i said, i messed up the final by not really studying. thank goodness it only accounted for 40%. i recall that the lecturer said that i was in the B+/A- range when i went to see my mid-term results. maybe i dropped from a high A- to a low B+. don't know, don't really care. as for the module itself, the teaching style was nice, timing was a bit bad, content was ok for the first half, but the second half was too bio-related. word is that the professor updates the module content after every semester it's offered, so i'm not sure how accurate this will be in the future. though if he takes up the suggestions my classmates and i left in the reviews/comments, it'll probably get tougher.

semester CAP: 4.00
overall CAP: 4.20

so with that, my module requirement for graduate studies is fulfilled, and my class-taking days in NUS have come to an end. on a side-note, i'm still above C-level! if these grades were to be computed into my undergrad CAP, i'd have an overall CAP of...4.25. not too bad. classes ended just in time, too! with this whole business of transitioning to a new lab, i don't think i can afford the distraction of a module. you know, worrying about exams, tests, deadlines, module content...that's actually a lot worse than research. i have no idea how the masters by coursework students manage/handle 5 modules a semester. granted that we did that in undergrad too, but still. worse is that they have to take "graduate ________ chemistry" modules, where the blank is filled by the 4 major areas of chemistry. asking me to take graduate physical or analytical chemistry is tantamount to asking me to jump off a bridge. whenever i see the QE email, i look through the physical and analytical (and sometimes inorganic) sample papers, and without fail, the same few thoughts come to mind. (1) how on earth did i make it past year 2!? (2) i'd fail so hard if i went back now. (3) did we really learn all of this stuff!? (4) thank goodness i have friends specializing in each area of chemistry. (5) thank goodness i already passed the written QE.

a major thing that's due to happen today is that i'm going to meet my professor and talk to him about the transfer. despite being on leave, the organometallics professor replied within the same day to confirm that his lab could accommodate me, and that i'd be welcome in his group after we settle a small funding issue. that's in stark contrast to the japanese professor, who's been keeping quiet all the while, and only replied with a short apology when i told him that i had found another place to go to. well...it worked out for the best, i think. i'm not really looking forward to telling my professor, since i'm expecting that he'll not be happy (which is perfectly understandable). i already spent yesterday clearing out the fume hood, throwing away some broken stuff, returning all the chemicals that i'd (mis)appropriated. i think the person who takes over me will have a pretty ample supply of glassware, TLC plates, etc.

there's one more thing i want to blog about, pertaining to emotions, relationships and all that stuff. but i realize i'm about to run late for a lunch appointment with the chem kids. so, refer to the video below. that should be a super huge hint.

-random thought of the day: Pay attention to the chorus and the last bit.-

Getting lots of stuff done makes me feel productive. it's sometimes an illusion, since the stuff can be really minor things. like yesterday, where i went to cat high, sim lim square, then raffles place. the trip to cat high was a short one. just caught some people at the tail-end of the "10 years since graduation" gathering. a fair few of the people there were from my sec 1 and 2 class, which was nice. admittedly, i don't really have many fond memories of them. the 2 years of lower secondary were rough, both because i was coming in from a foreign primary school (and thus didn't have established friendships already), and also because i was a weird, angry, not-really social kid. i'm still weird and not-really social, but thankfully less angry. also thankfully, it seems that we've all grown up with the years, and we were able to have some light casual conversation. don't think i will be best friends with any of them anytime soon (if ever), but at least i can say i feel neutral towards them. pity that i didn't really see many sec 3 and 4 classmates, exception being the guy who introduced me to blogging. we were actually classmates all the way from sec 1 to sec 4. in comparison, my time in upper secondary was (much) better, so i have more positive than negative memories of him.

i honestly don't have a clear recollection of the last time i stepped into cat high before yesterday. memory says that it's either 2009 or 2010. regardless, it's definitely been a while. during my last visit, i remember thinking that the school had gone a little overboard with the decorations (flying ducks hanging across an open area, anyone?). although i didn't get to walk around due to a slight time constraint, i think the decorations just got more...extreme. to give you some idea of what i mean by "extreme", apparently there's a rabbit cage, with live rabbit(s) included. i didn't see it for myself, but to paraphrase a quote from someone who did, "wah! did you see the rabbit cage? can probably keep a lion inside!" so yes. extreme. although the basic infrastructure is the same, the cat high from my memories is all but gone. not that i'm complaining, nor that it's even my place to complain. things change, that's a given. i think it may be good for the students too. maybe studying in such an environment helps to reduce the stress? besides, if i were to complain, i can just imagine how the really old old boys who studied at queen street might feel. now THEY'D really have something to complain about.

next destination was sim lim. i had to be in raffles place later anyway, so i parked the car somewhere and took a train to bugis, then walked the last about-500m. thanks to my online research beforehand, it wasn't so much of a "go and see what's available" kind of trip as compared to a "buy and get out" thing. i had already decided on something called the TDK trek A34. it seems to meet all my needs. transport controls (which is a fancy way of saying previous/next track), decently-sized, decently loud, runs on AC or battery power, able to charge my phone from it. the battery thing worries me slightly. you see, the batteries are nickel metal hydride batteries, and not lithium ion. i thought NiMH batteries were obsolete already! the thing about them is, you have to be very careful about their charge/discharge cycles, since partial charging can result in loss of battery capacity. so i don't really want to use them. then again, my plan is to have the speaker stationed near my workplace (fume hood or bench or whatever), and i expect that there'll be a power point nearby. so, running it off the power supply is the best option. and there's even a switch to disable the batteries, if i understood correctly. guess i'll find out when i set it up.

short sidetrack. i'm no stranger to online shopping. i've made a fair few online purchases, ranging from steam games to antivirus to stuff like pens and earphones from amazon, and even transactions like paying my phone bills, season parking, and road tax (barring the most recent one). however, i generally try to avoid buying electrical appliances (those that you have to plug in to a power source) online. for one, they're usually expensive. i would be more ok wasting say, $3 on an iphone cable, vs. wasting $200 on a DVD player in the event it doesn't work as advertised. and with electronics, they're usually shock-sensitive, so any mishandling during the shipping process increases the odds of receiving damaged goods, which would then have to be returned, creating even more hassle. worse is if the refund/exchange doesn't get approved. on top of all that, there's the voltage issue. some countries like america and japan run on 110V power, instead of singapore's 240V. that means appliances made for the american/japanese markets will short-circuit when plugged into the mains in singapore. of course there are things like voltage transformers, but not all appliances are equipped with those. so i'd rather not take the risk. if i buy something from singapore, i avoid the whole voltage issue, plus returns/exchanges are much more convenient...but at the cost of a (slightly?) higher price.

purchase finished, i then went to raffles place for...coffee. the nice starbucks barista got my drink order right! that makes her the third one so far. the coffee thing was fun and lively. bringing my junior was definitely the right move; she really helped to break the ice. i think i could see myself becoming a regular there. still not prepared for full disclosure at this point, but i will say this much. the changes to my facebook profile should be a big clue, probably enough for you to guess what i don't quite want to say yet.

these past 2 weeks have been nice and relaxing. can foresee that that will change soon. having to negotiate an exit from my lab, transitioning to the new lab, and working double-time to make up for joining late will keep me plenty occupied for the next month, if not the next semester, or even the next year. next week will probably be the toughest though, since i generally don't like confrontational situations. here's hoping that my professor will handle things with professionalism and grace. and if he doesn't, here's hoping i retain enough self control to keep calm and not blow up at him.

-random thought of the day: Hot spoons are good for mosquito bites.-

Most normal people would not usually think of murder on a regular basis, let alone plan to kill someone, or even participate in such a plan. yet, we (i) do it more often than you would think. of course i'm not referring to literal killing, like stabbing someone. rather, i mean it...well, not exactly figuratively. more like prolonged killing. maybe it'll become clearer after i explain it. if you recall, i have a coach from secondary school, and i sort of became his assistant after graduation, through JC, not army, and even up till about year 3 of university. well, the one thing about him that i don't think i've ever mentioned here before now is that he smokes. quite heavily. sure, he's considerate enough not to do it in front of secondary school kids, but word gets around fast. and although he does try to stand downwind from us (and we try to stand upwind of him too), i think i've inhaled a fair bit of secondhand smoke, which explains how i can easily pick up on smokers. but this isn't about killing me. the thing is, after we turned 18, he'd occasionally ask some of us to help him to buy cigarettes. i usually oblige, partially because the cigarettes are just one item in a grocery list, and partially also because i don't know how to say no to him nicely.

now, i know cigarettes are bad. HE knows cigarettes are bad. and yet, he shows no signs of quitting, nor do i show any signs of refusing to buy cigarettes for him. question here is, who's to blame? i definitely have to take some responsibility for agreeing, since it encourages the habit. at the same time, if i were to refuse, he'd simply ask another person to do it, or at the very worst case, he'd go to the nearest convenience store to buy them on his own. although now that he's temporarily mobility-impaired, the latter option might not be as viable. might be a good time to convince him to quit, though i think most of us have tried in the past, with no success. unfortunately, his injury and illness leads to some pain, and he says that smoking helps to relieve that pain. i'm not sure whether cigarettes function as painkillers as well, but something tells me that with that kind of psychological dependency, it'll be even more difficult to bring up the topic of quitting now.

actually, the main issue is this: do i have the right to force him to do something that he doesn't want to do (ie. quit smoking)? i mean, he's a legal adult, and smoking is legal (albeit expensive, but i don't control his finances either) in singapore. it would be totally different if it was a secondary school kid asking for help buying cigarettes. him smoking doesn't really affect me physically. a bit of secondhand smoke isn't much of a big deal...considering how little we see each other nowadays, i probably get worse from traffic exhaust. my stand is that i have no right to control his life. but then, his smoking does have a bit of an emotional impact. it's scientifically proven that smoking is unhealthy. increased lung cancer risk, reduced respiration efficiency, not to mention nicotine dependency and a whole host of other issues. long story short, there is a higher-than-average chance that a person's lifespan will be shortened if s/he smokes vs. if s/he didn't. and with his health already not exactly in prime condition, smoking will do him more harm than average. it doesn't feel good to know that you are actively contributing to reduce the lifespan of someone you care about.

to look at it from the other way round, he has no right to force me to buy cigarettes for him either. but the thing is, it's not exactly forcing in this case. he's always asked, and i've always agreed. so in that sense, it is more my fault. but you see, this is another of those tricky areas. he's my senior in age, he's helped me through some tough times in secondary school and army, one example being taking care of me when i was still a sheltered kid, and (for lack of a better way to put it) introduced me to some aspects of normal society. that's the kind of thing that i don't think i will ever be able to repay. not unless he has kids, to whom i can do the same (he doesn't). thus, i figured that it wouldn't be very nice of me to say no to such a simple request. maybe i have to find some sort of balance, like getting less than the requested amount, or getting them less frequently. i mean, he'll get them, regardless of whether it's through me or other means, so no point upsetting him over such a small matter, right? if only he'd quit because nobody would agree to get him cigarettes. that would make my decision so much easier.

on the NUS side, the japanese professor hasn't replied, so i think i have to be proactive and stop wasting time. a day wasted is a day's later graduation. i've drafted an email to the organometallics professor, and will send it on monday. it's quite bad karma to send work-related emails on weekends. then again, he's on leave, so i guess i'll have bad karma regardless. assuming i get the green light, i'll then finally talk to my professor and tell him that all his plans and predictions were wrong, i'm moving to somewhere which he didn't even think of, take that! ok no, not really. well maybe, but with much nicer words. then i'll email the japanese professor to say thanks for nothing, and begin the process of handing over stuff and transitioning to the new lab. if all goes well, i should be able to start my new project slightly before new year. not that there'll be much progress, considering that the holiday mood will still be in the air.

speaking of holiday mood, i've thought of the perfect christmas present for myself: wireless speakers for use in lab! you see, i currently use a pair of repurposed computer speakers, which require a wired connection. with my current phone case, the jack doesn't fit fully into the port, meaning that the volume and sound quality are both diminished. of course, the cheaper solution would be a 3.5mm extension cable with a slimmer jack, but i figured that since the speakers belong to the lab and i can't take them when i move (well i CAN, but that wouldn't be nice), i should just get something that's mine. and to solve any future connection issues, go wireless! been doing some research online, and i think i found a good candidate. will be going down to sim lim to check it out, since i have to be in the area later anyway. maybe i'll post about the whole shopping process later, and why i didn't simply get it online. for now, it's off to shower and get ready. thinking of dropping by cat high for a bit, since they're having the 10-year anniversary gathering for my graduated cohort. think i'll just pop by, say hi, then leave.

-random thought of the day: Feeling apprehensive about the Cat High thing.-

Pretty sure i've written about this next saying - when it rains, it pours. means that when bad things happen, it's often a combination of bad things, or something very severe, depending on the interpretation of "pours"...like many small droplets, or a giant deluge? basically, minor bad things don't exist on their own. i'm finding that to be true, as i received another bomb in my email just yesterday. to clarify, this latest bomb doesn't have anything to do with the NUS situation, which i'll digress to (briefly?) talk about.

in terms of the situation itself, not much has changed since the last update. what has changed, though, is my perception of the situation. i am really really not inclined to stay put in my current lab. my current best-case scenario is if i can move to my target organometallics lab with little to no issue. despite being pretty sure that i want to end up there, i'm still waiting for the japanese professor's reply. it's very irrational, since my decision is kind of independent of whether he says yes or no. so the logical thing to do would be to inform all relevant parties as soon as possible in order to start the move as soon as possible, thus saving time. but some stupid part of me is still waiting until i get a reply from the japanese professor, if only to see if he would accept me. perhaps it's an ego thing, like, "oh he does want me, so he must think somewhat highly of me!"...though for all i know, the reason could very well be (and probably is) because i can speak japanese. either way, the japanese professor had said that he would get back to me within a week from last friday, so i hope things can be set in motion before the week is up.

now for the most recent bomb. well, in terms of magnitude relative to the NUS thing, it's more of a firecracker sparkler than a bomb. what happened is that the SJF *FINALLY* got in touch with me to ask for an explanation for the macau trip. after close to FIVE MONTHS! it's so ridiculous it's bordering on unreal. and yes, somehow their excellent sense of timing is such that they sent the notice when i'm in the midst of tackling a much bigger problem. i'm supposed to give them a reply in a week from yesterday, so there's like 6 more days to go. at this point, i've already began drafting an email, which basically says please take a number, go one corner, and wait until i have the time. going to pull out all the stops on my vocabulary/sentence patterns here, and be super super polite. i kind of picked this up from japanese classes, where i learnt that writing a letter with too much keigo somehow achieves the opposite effect instead.

one interesting thing i noticed is that in the email, the management didn't invoke any article in the SJF constitution or referee code of conduct (not that the latter exists) to charge me under. therefore, the implication is that i didn't do anything that was wrong in the book, and that means that i have been wrongfully suspended. although they may argue "pending investigation" as a reason for the suspension, i have a nice counter-point for that. won't go into too much detail here at the moment, since who knows who reads this. maybe i'll blog about it in full after everything blows over.

it's quite an intriguing thing to me. why do people want power? is saying that you're the president such a big deal? of singapore, definitely. of NUS, probably. of a company, well, it depends on the company. but of the SJF? i don't know. that's a position i wouldn't want even if it was offered to me. doesn't seem logical that people are resorting to tricks and schemes just to place themselves in power. do these people really derive pleasure from making others' lives more difficult, to the extent that they want the power to mess with others? one of judo's core principles is "自他共栄 (jita kyouei)”, which is usually (somewhat inaccurately) translated into "mutual welfare and benefit". if you look at the kanji, the first two characters are "self" and "other" respectively. the third character means "together/shared/common", while the last means "flourish/prosper/glory". so it's not just looking out for each other, it's actually helping/pushing each other to shine. by suppressing certain things (some clubs, members, and SEA games kata come to mind immediately as examples), i'd say the SJF is actually operating in direct contradiction to this principle. anyway, i am but a small fry. it's not my position to judge. that's reserved for future generations, who will hopefully dig up all this, which will be ancient history by that time. all it takes is just for someone to ask, "why was there no kata event at the 2015 SEA games in singapore?" if i'm around when it happens, i look forward to helping to answer that question.

debt is another topic i want to talk about. once again, i've mentioned this (or at least something similar) before, so just skip it if you find it familiar. how does one repay a debt? for that matter, what do you consider a debt? monetary debt is straightforward; just pay however much you borrowed. i'm assuming we're talking between friends, so there's none of that messy interest stuff like with banks. in fact, between the chem kids, we're familiar enough with each other to the extent that we normally just round off to the nearest dollar, $5, or sometimes even $10. there's some profit and loss here and there, but i think that it all evens out or becomes insignificant in the long run, which i think we'll eventually reach. i think it's good that we're all ok with this arrangement, and that nobody is particularly calculative. for me personally, if it's someone i don't know that well, the understanding is that if i pay first, i expect them to be "automatic" and pay me back within some reasonable time...unless i decide not to collect, which should not be taken for granted as going to happen. conversely, if i owe others money, i'll take the initiative to pay in full as soon as possible, unless i really forget.

the second, trickier kind of debt is emotional debt. now, i hate owing big favours to people, because there's no tangible value. like say if i drive someone somewhere, how would that someone pay it back? by an equivalent act, i suppose. that's still somewhat straightforward. but what if, say, i saved your life somehow, or acted as your mentor for like a few years? either of those is more or less worth a life debt to me, particularly the latter case since the former has almost no realistic chance of happening. and if i owed someone that, it seems to me like no matter what i do, i will never fully pay it off. but i'd be fine with helping my debtor out, as long as they don't take advantage of it. and by that statement, it means that somehow i subconsciously think that there is an upper limit, so there is a possibility that such a life debt can be paid off. the mentor thing resonates with me, as i have been both the mentor and the mentored before. admittedly, i don't proclaim to be the perfect mentor (nor am i even close, actually), which is why i don't hold people i mentor to this life debt thing, or indeed, to any debt at all. i'm happy enough if they think well of me and don't talk bad about me behind my back. but as for my mentors, i do hold myself to that, and so i try my best to be there for them if/when they need me. though it's not easy, with my normally rubbish hours. then comes the next tricky thing: what if your mentor has really helped you, but things suddenly turn sour, or he owes you stuff now? what happens then? i'm starting to realize that this is sounding more and more like the NUS issue. believe me, i started writing with a different case in mind. i guess if you really feel wronged, the best is to go for an amicable split, like what i'm doing here. that's not entirely possible for my original case, though, due to some other circumstances.

guess i'll wrap up here. maybe i'll continue on this train of thought in another post. maybe my mentoring/coaching philosophy, too. also scheduled for sometime in the future, the question - would you help someone kill themself? all this and more, next time (hopefully)!

-random thought of the day: Feeling oddly philosophical due to the nice weather.-

Amazing how much things can change day-to-day, and even more amazing is when you put the days together and look at the overall change. though i said that i'd be taking the whole week off after tuesday to meditate on issues, i've been back to school both yesterday and today due to new information and changing circumstances. without going through the twists and turns, here's the most updated situation: after talking to a few other PIs, i am more or less set on leaving my professor's lab. it's not just talking to potential new supervisors that caused this change in perspective; there were a few push factors too.

the most major of the push factors is actually my professor's attitude over the past few days. i will stand by what i said before - he's been a good supervisor for my UROPS, honours, and even the first bit of grad studies. unfortunately, he's been pushy and manipulative in making us decide, and those are two qualities which i do not appreciate at all. i think that's his character...just that it doesn't come through so clearly or so much when discussing science. after all, the most common question we ask is "is there ee?", and that can be answered by solid evidence. in this case, the decision isn't so easily made. and the fact that he's trying to get us to "make" the decision that he's already made for us is a bit annoying. or maybe we're not reacting as planned, and he's upset. whatever the case is, i don't think it justifies using guilt and other things to manipulate us. like, he said something to the effect of, "i think you're more inclined to move labs. if so, please clear up and do a proper handover, and move out as soon as possible," and "i think i really planned too much for you all. why are you going through all the pieces of the puzzle to arrive at the same conclusion as i did?". the problem now is, i've arrived at a different conclusion. so maybe we didn't know each other as well as we respectively thought, even after 3 years. also, he keeps bringing up the fact that there's someone else waiting in the wings to take over my spot if i should choose to leave, and that i should decide fast to save my spot. i wouldn't put it past him to make this person up. after all, he seemed unnaturally defensive when i casually asked whether this person was from our group or not. logically the answer should be yes, because it would be unethical for him to take in more new students. but he was all like "none of your business", which makes me think something fishy is going on.

that's (just) the manipulative part. as for pushy, he's asked to see me once per day i've been in school to kind of remind me that time was limited, and that i should decide soon blah blah. do you know what kind of people use this kind of tactics to "force" you to agree to something? salesmen. do you know the not-so-nice answer? conmen. that's why the more pressure he exerts on me to agree, the more i want to stay away. even though he assures me that all the equipment and chemicals will stay untouched and i will have ample budget to buy stuff, i really really think there's stuff that he's not telling me. stuff like i have to tank the lab safety issues, or that i may not have much support since he'll be far away more often than not. his arguments are solid on the surface, but somehow i can start to see the cracks forming. maybe i've finally seen through him.

another serious push factor is that quite honestly, i'm not seeing a good future for myself in asymmetric synthesis. by that, i mean the research area is kind of getting saturated. to put it bluntly, the good publishable stuff has been published by my seniors. i don't blame them. it just comes down to timing. they were there when the reaction was being explored, and they got good results. with those good reactions gone, we have to dig deeper to find publishable stuff. and this deeper digging is becoming tiresome because no matter how i dig, i'm not getting anything. maybe a switch in environment might be good for me. of course, there are downsides, like having to extend my candidature. that's almost a given. i'm actually not against the idea, as long as i'll be funded. somehow my professor seems to think that graduating on time is (or should be) my #1 priority. while i agree that it's important, having this kind of disruption is bound to knock it down a few notches. the way i see it, as long as i'm getting paid, and will eventually graduate (within a reasonable timeframe of say, no more than 6 years), i can accept it, because i do have some influence over my graduation date. working harder/faster/smarter to get more results than expected should allow me to cut a few days, which may become weeks, then months, and maybe eventually a semester.

the fact that the lab culture is starting to become kind of toxic is yet another push factor. it would be foolish to think that in any given organization, everyone loves everyone else and everything is rainbows and butterflies. in short, there's bound to be friction between certain people, or even certain factions within a group. while that kind of exists to some extent in the lab, i can look past that. the thing that i can't stand is the bo-chup-ness that is exhibited by an increasing number of people in the lab. it's simple things like not bothering to stick waste labels on waste containers, not replacing pipes that are broken/leaking, not putting hazardous waste in proper areas, even being lazy to change their own gas cylinders. as the safety lead, it is my responsibility to chup these things, and it got tiresome really fast. i suppose this is transitioning into pull factors now, but if i join any other lab, there is a very low likelihood that i have to assume the position of safety lead again.

let's look at other pull factors. none of my target professors' groups have saturday group meetings, meaning that working on weekends is purely optional. the reactions which i will be asked to do are most likely not as complicated as my current reactions, and the synthetic routes are more likely to be simpler. and coming from a lab where 12-hour days are somewhat common, i'll totally spoil the market in an organometallics or inorganic lab, since the norm in those labs seem to be 8-hour days. makes me wonder why on earth i endured such horrible conditions for so long. plus, being trained in organic synthesis, i am actually pretty versatile in areas which i can go into. in fact, out of the 4 graduated phds from my lab, only one is still doing organic synthesis. but even then, he switched away from methodology to total synthesis.

all things considered, it looks like moving might be in my better interest than staying. now all i have to do is wait for the japanese professor's reply before making a final decision. in the midst of all this, i should bear in mind that everything happens for a reason. maybe someone up there thought it might be good for me to change professors. and of course, the other thing is that once i've committed to a decision, i shouldn't second-guess myself. here's hoping that i'll have the clarity of mind to choose the best path for myself.

-random thought of the day: Stressed.-

Realized that in yesterday's post, i mainly blogged about factual stuff, like what to do. i think that i should balance it out by blogging about how i feel about the whole thing. side benefit, it may help my emotional state if i vent a bit.

first off, let's identify the adjectives i would use to describe my feelings. sad, somewhat cheated/betrayed. not exactly angry. a little relieved, a little afraid. though it was never explicitly stated that my professor had to stay throughout my candidature, it's kind of implied that he'd be around to see me through to graduation. it's only the responsible thing to do. then again, i think having to move must have come as something really sudden, otherwise he probably wouldn't have accepted new graduate students for this academic year, or made such significant investments in the lab (solvent system comes to mind). of course, having spent 3 years in his lab, i definitely feel sad that i can't complete my degree under him. he's actually one of the nicest supervisors in chemistry. i'm not sure that my future professor will be as accommodating. naturally, there will be some apprehension of adapting to a new lab culture, not to mention the new people as well. thankfully, i have like 2 friends in the japanese professor's lab, and another friend in one of the organometallics labs.

one of the other grad students actually got angry with my professor, calling him irresponsible. although we started graduate studies at the same time, our reactions to the matter are vastly different. i don't exactly feel anger towards my professor...maybe some annoyance/frustration at most. could be because i didn't have to leave my home country to go to a foreign university. or perhaps i'm younger, so i don't feel like i'm lagging behind my peers, or not making enough to sustain my family. don't know if he feels that way, but that's my guess. it seems like an overreaction to me, but who knows? i may have reacted equally badly (or worse) had the roles been reversed.

the relief comes from 2 main sources: the existence of my get out of jail free card to quit NUS, and the fact that i'm moving away from the lab. the first one is probably understandable, but the second one might be counter-intuitive/paradoxical. thing is, while i like my professor and my lab culture, and even (most of) the people. as i believe i've mentioned before, my research isn't really going anywhere. maybe a change of environment, project, culture, or something else will be what i need to start churning out papers. don't want to put too much hope there, though. i guess fundamentally, the most important change is a change in mindset to something more positive and daring (to try weird experiments). have to talk to the professors first. for now, i'm still meditating on the decision. neither options nor percentages have really changed that much since the last post, so there's not much to say on that front. hopefully dinner with my JC classmate(s) will give me some other factors to consider.

-random thought of the day: Not thinking of anything in particular.-

Looks like i was right to worry after all. here's the story: due to "family issues" (as he put it), my professor will be moving back to hong kong in a year's time. although he said that there's a chance that he might not move, knowing his character, he wouldn't rock the boat unless he was 95% sure of the move. though it's not really my place to demand an answer, i really wonder what exactly the family issues are. my current guesses are (1) a sick parent, or (2) he wants to start a family. whatever the reason, the fact remains that he's going. i also wonder if he considered any alternatives, like waiting another 3.5 years for everyone to graduate before going back. but if my guess is right, he's probably considered the alternatives, and made a compromise because the issue is somewhat time-sensitive. still, i guess i should be somewhat thankful that he gave such advance notice, unlike a senior of mine, whose professor only told his students 1 month in advance that he'd be going to NTU.

as much as i trust him, a little part of me wonders if there are additional pull/push factors at play. for example, did he receive a better job offer from hong kong (pay rise and/or promotion) at the same time? or maybe he's becoming homesick. staying away for about 6 years with only short trips back might do that to a person. or perhaps it could be that the building that houses our lab is due for demolition in a couple of years, and he doesn't want to go through the hassle of relocating. guess i'll never find out, because i don't think he's likely to tell us even if we asked.

since it's established that he's going, the current priority is to decide on a plan of action. let's break down my choices. there are 2 main branches: stay, or go. for "stay", that further splits into 2 routes: find a new supervisor, or co-PI. co-PI might not be a good idea, since i'll ultimately still be reporting to my professor, who'll be based in hong kong, which means limited contact with him. and with him being physically in hong kong, he's bound to focus most to all of his attention there. and that probably means that we won't get his best research ideas. taking all that into consideration, it's risky to co-PI.

the other "stay" branch is to find a completely new supervisor. when looking for a new supervisor, there are 2 schools of thought. first, find a relatively new assistant professor, because they'll push you for papers as part of their fight for tenure. the other option is to find a super established professor, whose name may be able to get your tier x work published in a tier (x-1) journal (assuming lower-numbered tiers are better). next question is stay in the same field of asymmetric catalysis, or try to break into a different field? if i'm to stay with asymmetric, i've got someone in mind, and that same someone has also been strongly recommended to me by my professor. the reason is because he's japanese, and quite a powerful name in the chemistry world. he can basically open doors for me in japan and/or japanese companies. according to a former phd student who's now a postdoc in his group, you'll definitely learn a lot in his group, since he has literature meetings and even quizzes students randomly about reactions and concepts. while there are other professors (well, more like 1) doing asymmetric organocatalysis, i really don't want to end up anywhere else other than the japanese professor's lab, assuming i'm staying with asymmetric.

if i'm going to change field, i will probably go into organometallics. that's what a phd student from my group is now pursuing as a postdoc in israel (of all places, right?). i see organometallics as not entirely foreign, but not entirely familiar either. definitely have to pick up some new skills. there are a few (like 3) professors i have in mind if i'm going to switch. one is an assistant professor, and the newest member of the faculty. the other is also an assistant professor, who will be fighting for tenure in the next 1-2 years. the last guy is an associate professor, but still maintains high expectations of his students. will have to ask my professor to set meetings up so that i can talk with each of them and get a feel for what they do, and whether it strikes me in any way. of course, the other thing i have to look out for and remember to ask is about the lab culture, like if there are any fixed hours, days, expectations, etc. very very important to know.

surprisingly, the "go" branch also divides into 2. the first "go" option is to follow my professor to hong kong. there are so many downsides to this, it's hardly worth considering. to name 3 major negatives, it's not even confirmed whether i can go with him. the degree will be from that university, not NUS. i may have to extend 1 or 2 semesters to graduate. actually that last one isn't so bad, because it already seems like an extension will come with taking a completely new project. but it's the chance and degree things that ultimately make this route not worth further consideration. not to mention other small things like the language barrier.

one major reason i think i'm not serious about this whole phd business is that this last route even exists as a thought in my brain. this last route, of course, is to leave NUS and maybe graduate with a masters degree, or worst case, nothing at all. the scary thing is that the thought of leaving is extraordinarily attractive, and is becoming even more so as time goes by. this is literally a get out of jail (almost) free card, which i don't know if i should cash in on or not. then again, i have to remind myself that a masters degree in science isn't really worth much. but that might not matter if my future job is no longer science-related. for practical reasons (aka car loans), though, i'd probably hang on at least until next semester is over. at present, my decision is split as follows: 50% go with japanese professor, 30% change field, 20% leave. figure that i still need time to sit/sleep/meditate on this. as a somewhat unintended consequence, i've lost all mood to do any experiments this week, until i settle on a path. most likely won't be going to school either. not much point, i think. anyway, i guess i'll have to consider everything in greater detail. lastly, it's not often i ask this, but if you (yes, you who are reading this right now) have any advice/input/personal experience, drop me a comment?

-random thought of the day: Major spanner in the works.-

Sudden unexpected emails from your professor are almost never a good thing. like the one currently sitting in my inbox, which says that he'd like to meet us (graduate students and postdocs) individually, regarding a serious matter that affects our research careers. after some discussion with the chem kids, the current most likely scenario in my head is that he's quitting NUS and moving either to NTU or abroad, and wants us to decide whether to follow him or stay put. if i had to guess, i'd think it's more likely NTU than abroad, since he's already a singapore PR. the weird thing is, he only got tenure like, at the start of this year, so that reduces the odds a little. unless the offer he got was really too attractive to refuse...

another possibility is that he just wants to check that we're on the right track for our research, and maybe give pep talks to those who need it. i know i do. though if that were the case, he probably wouldn't have worded his email so strongly, or wanted to see all the graduates and postdocs. hard to say, though. he's secretive like that sometimes. if this were true, i think that might be the best case, though i'd be annoyed because he got me unnecessarily worried. somehow, i think this is quite a low-probability scenario, since this is the first time i've received (or even heard of) this kind of email in the 3 years i've been in his lab.

the third possibility that just came to mind is that he's quitting, but for other reasons, say poor health (touch wood) or a shift in priorities...like maybe he wants to focus on starting/building his family. i really have no idea what it could possibly be. hopefully, i'm overthinking, and he just exaggerated the severity. or maybe there's something wrong in the lab. but being the safety lead, i'm aware of most of the goings-on of daily lab routine, and i haven't noticed anything out of the ordinary recently. hence, i'm also not quite sure what to think.

in the event that he's leaving, though, i wonder. would i follow him, find a new professor in NUS, or just stop grad studies? to be honest, that last option looks quite tempting. maybe this will catalyze plan japan. but well. no use worrying about it, especially since i don't know what the problem is yet, or if a problem even exists. guess i'll wait and see what tomorrow brings..

-random thought of the day: Hate being kept in suspense.-

2 weeks have passed in a flash, and thankfully, there's been some progress in my research. i'm now a step closer to my substrate. admittedly, it's not as fast as i'd like, but it beats being stuck in one place. if all goes really well, i might have my molecule tomorrow. if not, hopefully by friday. once i get to the ketone, the rest is just simple functional group transformations, which can be done quite easily/quickly. don't want to get my hopes up too much though, to avoid setting myself up for an even greater fall.

speaking of hopes, today was JLPT day. the instruction was not to blog about the contents of the test, so i'll have to comply. doesn't mean i can't blog about my feelings though, right? to establish the background, i really didn't study, so i was going in like, completely unprepared. to make things worse, the last time i studied japanese seriously was a semester ago or so, for japanese 5 in may. so not only was i unprepared, i was (am) also rusty. not a good combination under the best of circumstances. this is actually the first-ever japanese test for which i know i'm not going to do well...or even pass, for that matter. even the horrible mid-term from japanese 3 didn't come close to the sense of helplessness i felt while taking the exam. but hey, it's kind of expected, what with me not studying and all. for me to pass, i'd require nothing short of a minor miracle. my (self-estimated) odds are...95% likely to fail? well, it's not really a big deal. this is on the same level of importance as a driving test. not passing immediately won't kill me, but it might make things inconvenient until i pass. although i've been telling myself that i'm ok with failing, and that i don't really deserve to pass anyway, a small part of me just hopes that i DO pass. don't know if that's optimism or foolishness, but if i had to guess, i'd say the latter.

as for the test itself, it was easily the most difficult japanese test i've taken...once again, largely because i didn't prepare well (at all, actually). the thing that killed me was probably the vocabulary. there was quite a lot of unfamiliar kanji, and even familiar kanji whose readings and meanings i couldn't recall. the reading part stunned me quite a bit, because there were so many (admittedly short) passages. language-wise, i think it was about...high-school standard? 105 minutes sounds like a lot of time, but when there are 75 or so questions, that actually breaks down to less than 2 minutes per question, which is not enough for the reading questions. that means we have to reallocate time by finishing the other sections as quickly as possible. as it was today, i finished with like only 5 minutes to spare. since i've survived NUS japanese, it should mean that listening would be a breeze, right? it wasn't. the rust must have blocked my ears up. i think i'm only confident of less than 40% of my answers. well...i guess i have about 2 months to mentally prepare myself to retake the exam, and maybe decide whether or not to sign up for prep classes.

two things kind of surprised me this weekend. first was that although i thought that i'd convinced myself that i wasn't stressed, and wouldn't be stressed going into the exam, i think i was still stressed on a somewhat subconscious level. you see, i had dinner with the animal shelter volunteers at this sushi place in liang court (amazing sushi, by the way), and midway through dinner, my nose started running. the odd thing was that it cleared up as soon as i was in the test venue today. not sure if i'm using the word right, but i think it's called a psychosomatic sickness. the other thing that surprised me today was the age distribution of the candidates. didn't care so much about the older side, but i noticed that there were a couple of kids in the room! when i say "kids", i mean literal kids...like under 12, primary school-aged kids. made me kind of jealous, thinking that kids that young could possibly pass N2, while my odds were so low. worse is that they didn't look japanese, so i don't know how they got so high-level at such a young age. maybe one japanese parent?

brief sidetrack for sushi. like i said earlier, it was amazing. like, i could actually taste the seaweed, which was still crisp! and their fish was pretty fresh. i enjoyed almost everything i tried, including scrambled egg sushi, seared salmon sushi, regular salmon sushi, oysters, chawanmushi, and some other stuff which escapes me right now. i also tried natto again, and it seems that i still don't care much for it. the taste is manageable; it's sort of like less flavourful coffee beans. but the texture...that's another story. it's often described as "slimy", but i feel that that's not enough. it's not exactly viscous, which makes it worse. i can handle thick, slimy fluids, like say, jelly or tau huay (which are not exactly fluids, but whatever). to use another more gross example, i can even handle mucus. come on, who hasn't swallowed a mouthful or two when sick/crying? but this...it's fluid enough to flow easily and coat your mouth, but viscous enough to make swallowing quite unpleasant. so...i guess it's a taste i haven't acquired, and will most likely not be acquiring anytime soon.

on the topic of opening up (refer to previous post), perhaps i may not be the best person to ask such a question. but i'll go on anyway. although i'm quite private about certain aspects of my life, i consider myself to be pretty open in other aspects. like if you want to know my birthday, address, blood type, schools attended, monthly income and certain other stuff, you just have to ask. of course, i'm not about to reveal this kind of stuff to any old person...i have to know you personally, and be reasonably assured that you're not going to misuse the information. but anyway. i recently got to know this person. well, not really recently. we've known each other for about a year now, but haven't been that close until 2 weeks ago. anyway, this person is ridiculously private...like, i don't even know their chinese name. makes me feel kind of exposed/vulnerable, since they know more about me than i do about them. what makes it worse is that they're kind of distant and distrusting. but well, after talking to some other friends, i guess as much as i want to reach out, i should do risk assessment and decide how much i'm going to invest in this. hopefully i don't end up messing myself up. goodness knows that's the last thing i need right now.

-random thought of the day: Do some people actually find joy in messing up other peoples' lives?-

Going to save the heavy stuff for another time, and just blog about one thought today. you know sometimes when you're eating at a hawker centre or food court (or more rarely, at a fast food place), there will be a middle-aged to elderly person who approaches you, trying to sell you tissue paper at a really jacked-up price? i wonder about arguments for and against entertaining them. on one hand, i think it's illegal to approach people like that without a license or permit. not to mention that like i mentioned before, most people (myself included) don't really appreciate being approached by strangers when they're minding their own business.

but then, i find myself feeling kind of sympathetic for them. i can't imagine that it's easy to go around asking others for money. and although i'm not like super rich, i'm not going to miss a dollar here or there that much, which puts me in a position to help them. so i should, right? while my instinct tells me yes, a little part of me still wants to be suspicious. different people value face differently, after all. while i might not be willing to ask strangers for money, that doesn't mean others will be as reserved. it is a way to get money with relatively little effort and a high profit margin, after all. but that could also be because i have never been driven to their level of desperation.

one thing does kind of make me uncomfortable, though, and that is that these people tend to be so persistent! like, they'll come up and ask once. while i'm thinking about it, they'll just keep going on and on, stuff like "it's only a dollar...please help..." it really puts me off. of course, i understand why they do it...to make themselves look more in need of help, and thus improve their odds of getting a sale. i don't know. i still don't like the idea of giving cash. maybe what i can do next time is buy them a drink or something.

should probably go back to bed for a quick nap/rest while i can. after missing lab today, i should go in really early tomorrow (like 5:00am kind of early) to make up. still have to run 2 columns and check a few reactions. with any luck, i'll have the compound by this week, if not next.

-random thought of the day: Is it hard to open up to people?-

This has been the most relaxing weekend i've had all semester. since it's exam period (reading week just ended, and exams officially started yesterday), my professor cancelled group meeting for 3 weeks. yesterday was the first of the 3 cancelled meetings, so i've got 2 more free saturdays. should enjoy it while i can, since this happens only like once every semester. was supposed to go to school today for a bit, just to wash my NMR tubes and check on my reactions. but somehow, sleeping at 2:30am last night kind of ruined that plan. hopefully my reflux hasn't dried and died yet. should be ok, since i have a running-water condenser. then again, the solvent is ether, which boils at like 30°C. but i have it under nitrogen, used excess solvent, and didn't set the temperature too high...hard to say. it'll probably make it. as long as the system doesn't explode.

call me crazy, but i didn't take advantage of this past free saturday to sleep in. instead, i went to BPS on the coach's invitation, to hang around for their training/open house. it was fun; i'm always impressed with the spirit at their training sessions. it seems that i'm getting even closer to BPS. guess it's because they've been really welcoming. and also because i've been overseas with some of them. overseas trips tend to really help with bonding. anyway, the open house was somewhat less crowded than i was expecting. that's probably why there were only 3 sec 1 classes this year. well...not really my business. just an observation. another observation i'd like to make is that i've become somewhat distant with SJI/CJC, but that's because i haven't been to their training in so long, what with my lab work and their exams...the schedule just hasn't fallen into place that nicely. nobody's fault, really, but it does suck on some level, feeling that you're closer to another school vs your alma mater.

previously, i'd always thought that a person's feelings for someone else couldn't change spontaneously. and i still stand by that. the thing is, i now know first-hand that feelings can change...when the other person does something that goes against your (my) beliefs/values/morals. suddenly, whatever good feelings you (i) used to have just evaporated. it's liberating, in a sense, but it also makes me wonder how well i knew that person, and did i ever think that they'd be capable of what they did. but i guess that that's pointless to think about. after all, whatever friendship or relationship that we shared is dead as far as i'm concerned now, so i really should not waste brain space on it. if only my brain was obedient enough to stick with that reasoning. well...whatever. i think i can handle it, obedient brain or not.

why do you tell someone a secret? i was having a little debate on this topic with some of the other dog shelter volunteers over dinner yesterday. they lean more towards the view that telling someone a secret (eg. something personal) should be done because you value the person you're telling and want to be honest with them. on the other hand, i'm favouring the view that people tell other people stuff because sometimes, having a secret can be too much to bear, and by telling someone, you kind of share the burden? something like that. i'm starting to realize that that's kind of selfish, like you're confiding in someone else just to make yourself feel better, paradoxical as it sounds. and in a way, you impose the burden of knowledge onto the other person. guess the key is being even more selective, and only confiding in someone for the right reason. kind of like you shouldn't do something simply for the sake of doing it.

oh. there's a judo competition going on today and tomorrow. carded athletes who aren't fighting are supposed to help out in some way (referee or technical official) as a condition for their continued carding next year. i tried to sign up as a referee, i really did. but well, according to the referee director, i'm still under suspension, so i don't have to participate. that freed up my weekend, so i'm not complaining. i am complaining about how long this investigation is taking, though. it's been slightly more than 4 months since i've came back from macau, and i'm told that investigations are still ongoing. even if the issue was only brought up once a month during management committee meetings, you'd think 4 meetings would be enough to settle it! apparently not. maybe there are things i don't know, but from my perspective, the SJF management is starting to look incompetent. to me, it seems that if they really felt so strongly about it, they should have written to macau immediately to get the facts, then present their findings at the next meeting. then summon me to hear my side of the story, maybe take another meeting to decide on a suitable penalty, inform me of the penalty and let me decide whether to contest it, and if i do contest it, get a neutral party to arbitrate, and declare the issue solved. that would have taken like 3 months, tops. being informed of a penalty and serving it (if it was reasonable) would be so much more preferable than being hung in limbo. but well...there could be factors that are beyond their control, or stuff that i'm not aware of, so i can't vouch for the accuracy/feasibility of my assessment. it's just what i think should have been done. perhaps making the entire investigation more transparent (as in giving regular updates) would be beneficial for everyone.

although i don't think there's much chance of this happening, i would be extremely upset if the management were to use this suspension as an excuse to declare me inactive as a referee, or if they were to use my non-participation in the competition as a reason to revoke my carding. granted, there is sufficient grounds to revoke my carding even without using the competition as a reason, but i'm not going to let them tack that extra unjustified charge on, even if the end result is the same. it's the principle of the thing, you know? but let's not worry about that now, there'll be plenty of time for worrying later, like when they reach a conclusion about the referee thing and the club thing at the AGM, which i'm told is to be held next month. fingers crossed that everything works out fine.

-random thought of the day: You cannot love the life you live until you live the life you love.-

Without making light of the issue of mental illness or the people who are genuinely unwell, today was the closest i think i've come to a panic/anxiety attack. it's like, my reactions are not going well, i'm severely behind schedule, and the stupid TG hexane is contaminated, so i've had to throw some precursors away. scheduled an appointment with my professor tomorrow, though i'm not sure if he's free. hopefully talking to him will help.

there are 2 things which i wanted to mention in the last post. one of them is that people are doing their jobs too. context: on sunday, as i was waiting for scary at J8, this woman from the HPB came up to me and started talking about visceral fat, health screenings and all that. naturally, i was irritated and gave short answers at first, because i had just been minding my own business and didn't appreciate being approached like that. but then, i got to thinking. it was a sunday, and sunday night to boot. i'm sure no sane person wants to spend their sunday night approaching strangers and getting them to do some stupid health screening. had the roles been reversed, i would want people who at least pretended to be interested, so i could convince myself that i was doing my job, i guess. with that thought in mind, i tried to be more accommodating. hope that made her sunday less sucky. so i guess my takeaway here is to think more of/for other people. trivia - turns out that lady's an NUS chem graduate too...but like 18 years ago? something like that. her FYP professor is still around, though.

right outside my lab, there is a male toilet. that means i'm lucky as i don't have to go one floor up/down, unlike the girls. but that's a sidetrack. thing is, my neighbouring block in having construction works done, and the workers sometimes use the toilet, and that's the second thing. there's been a notice put up saying that the toilet was "staff only", and asking workers not to use it. from a human perspective, it's discrimination. why can't workers use the same toilet as us? is it because they're not employed by or affiliated to the university? actually, i think the concern is more practical. you see, due to the nature of their work, the workers tend to track lots of mud/sand/dust into the toilet, which gives the cleaning staff a harder job. as a student, i'm not affected, so of course it's ok if the workers use the same toilet as me. but if i was in charge of cleaning the toilet, i would definitely not be happy.

going to end off here for now. should be going home soon. i realized that i made a very stupid mistake for the drugs test, so i don't know how that will affect anything. keeping my fingers crossed that i won't fall below a B-.

-random thought of the day: Demoralized.-

Reconnecting with old friends has been a major theme of this past week. i had appointments with friends whom i haven't seen in periods ranging from a year to 8 years. before that, though, i think we'll do things in chronological order, meaning that i have to talk about the drugs test on monday.

by "drugs test", i of course don't mean a literal "pee into a cup" thing. it was the final exam of the drugs module, only that it has to be called a test and not an exam because it was before reading week. admittedly, i didn't really study that much, so i'm not setting my expectations too high. most likely i won't fail, but i'm hoping for a B- at worst, just to keep my C-less streak throughout undergrad and graduate life. it would kind of suck to get my first C on the very last module of my university life. well...i'll only know in about a month, so no point worrying about it now.

on tuesday, i met up with a friend whom i've written about a few months back. he's the one with hereditary spastic paraplegia (once again, i swear i'm not making that name up). went to his place at bukit panjang for dinner and just to hang out. now, i haven't been to bukit panjang since i stopped tutoring an SJI boy who lives there, so like for...about 3 years? it hasn't really changed, still lots of construction and road works going on. the roads were a little less straight and smooth, and so required a bit more skill. nothing the car couldn't handle, though. this particular friend of mine stays at ten mile junction, which apparently has a condo-type development above the shops. think it would be a nice place to live in in the future, once all the construction's done. so we caught up over dinner at paradise inn (i think). since the condition makes it difficult to be a naval diver, he left the SAF and is now working as a designer/facebook page manager. it suits him, since he's always been artistically-inclined. don't think i mentioned it to him that night, but i really liked his signature (which i saw when he was signing for the bill). very nice and flowy.

anyway. after dinner, we went back to his place, where he did a few tarot readings for me. he picked it up somewhere sometime somehow, and i thought it'd be interesting. although i'm sure other forces exist, i can't really be bothered to worry about whatever supernatural stuff. but i figure that as long as i keep to the terms of our agreement and don't try anything funny, everything should be ok. i asked 5 questions, with surprisingly accurate answers. but i suppose i should qualify that statement. i don't know for sure about the exact mechanisms of how tarot cards work, so i'm just going to look at it from a scientific/mathematical/statistical point of view. there are 72 (or 78? let's go with 72 until told otherwise) cards in a deck. for each reading, 3 cards are drawn, which means that the odds of drawing any given card in a reading ranges from 1 in 72 to 1 in 70. those are already quite small odds. yet, there were 2 cards that came up twice, and this was with shuffling between questions. the first card was the ace of swords, also known as the tyrant, which is associated with logic/facts and the idea of manipulation. oddly, that card came up when i asked about my love life, which then links to the idea of a marriage of convenience. that scares me more than it should. the second time it came up was linked to a question i asked about someone important to me, and that really made me review all our past interactions. more on that later. the second card that came up twice was the hermit, first when i was asking about my grad studies journey. the odd thing is that the hermit is equipped for the journey, but doesn't use his tools effectively, and is more focused on the ground before him than the journey ahead. that kind of resonates with me, since i may not pursue chemistry in the future despite having a shiny degree (if all goes well). i also told him about possibly failing either the QE or oral defence. that led to my friend saying that at my level, perhaps the only reason someone fails is because they want to fail. i wonder.

not going to go into details about the other questions, but all in all, the readings were pretty accurate. then again, i suppose that was due to 2 factors: (1) the readings themselves were kind of ambiguous, and (2) we were looking for meaning in the readings. like most stuff of this nature, tarot is very open to interpretation. for example, the statement "there is someone in your life with whom you feel a special connection" probably applies to the vast majority of people in the world. so would stuff like "the person you're asking about is burdened by some problem". but admittedly, i personally feel that the cards i got for my readings were a little too coincidental to be pure chance. the second thing is that somehow, we were trying to find the link, which introduces a factor of bias into the equation. there were a few far-fetched connections, and playing with the different definitions/meanings of the words was sometimes necessary. but still, i think ultimately, there is as much meaning in it as we choose to derive. definitely not going to live my life by the cards or anything, but it does help to discover new perspectives and challenge your previous thoughts.

wednesday's dinner was judo-related, and that's probably all i can say about it. actually, the photos are all on facebook already, so what the hell. we met up with someone who's quite unpopular with the current federation management. then again, everyone who was at that table is unpopular with the current federation management, so that's not really saying much. i received some advice regarding my refereeing future, which is to wait until at least 30 years old to take the continental exam. it seems that failing due to (being under)age is a very real possibility. and besides, even with the macau experience, i don't think i'm good enough to take the exam yet. still have to improve on my gestures (more grace needed), my score awarding (more accuracy needed), and my knowledge of the rules (more needed, period). given my current indefinite suspension, and the SEA games next year (no national referees allowed) though, i wonder how i'm going to get the practice in. will have to find a way.

going to skip thursday and friday because nothing really interesting happened. that brings us to yesterday, where i didn't catch up with old friends, but made new ones over coffee. that was also the day that i found out that 2 starbucks drinks within 7 hours is a bit too much for my body to handle. to put that into perspective, i only drink coffee like less than 5 times a year. those 5 times are usually concentrated in the november/december period, when starbucks has the holiday drink thing going on. incidentally, i realize that out of the 5 times total that i've ordered my favourite drink (the holiday peppermint mocha with all the add-ons, but with only one modification: change mocha to dark mocha) this year and last year, i've only got the exact perfect order once. the other 4 times, i've had to talk to the barista because they'd not get the idea, or not give me candy cane sprinkles/chocolate. yes i know it's unhealthy, but it's only a few times a year. probably won't die. umm...i lost track of my thoughts. oh, right. making new friends. it's not the right time to go into details yet, and i'm actually not sure if there will ever be a right time. so for now, i guess i'll just say that i quite enjoyed it, which is quite uncharacteristic of antisocial me.

after a brief trip to lab (to wash glassware and set up a reaction) and judo, i met with a JC schoolmate whom i haven't seen since graduation. my nickname for her in JC was "scary", and it somehow stuck. we ate at manhattan fish market at J8, and the standard of service just keeps dropping with each visit. the place was like 40% full maximum, and we still had to remind them when they forgot an item on our order. and the staff were a little...not exactly rude, but they could have acknowledged us a little more, and with a bit more...gentleness? whatever. the food was decent, though. over dinner, we caught each other up on stuff that's been going on...stuff like me doing grad studies, her having a boyfriend (who was also present), what some of our mutual friends are now doing...things that you'd talk about after a gap of 8 years. hopefully we won't wait another 8 years to meet up again.

could have been because of the drugs test, but this past week was really bad for lab...like, i didn't have the motivation to do anything, and only set up at most 1 reaction a day, compared to the previous week's 2 to 3. guess i'll have to shake myself out of it and get back to doing more. i swear, if i can't get the substrate out, my head will roll. and in another case of amazing coincidence, i found out that the lady lab tech who comes to inspect my lab every month has a son, who was my friend in JC. how's that for an amazing coincidence!? maybe i should try an reconnect with him as well, though it's a bit more difficult since he's in NZ for work, and i don't know how long for. guess we'll let fate take its course here.

-random thought of the day: Do I want to fail?-