Revisions have to be made, both to my thesis and my assessment of this person. thesis first. my professor read through everything, and his comments were surprisingly positive and not harsh! the introduction passed muster for the first time in...ever, actually. just need to include more examples to highlight my points. chapters 2 and probably 4 will need restructuring, in the way that results are presented. it's too draggy now, so i have to use less prose and more figures. chapter 3 should be ok. just have to relook it. and there's some renumbering that needs to be done. personal goal: have the edits to completed chapters finished in 2 days, chapter 4 finished by the weekend, send all 5 chapters to my professor for second read-through next monday, get feedback in a few days, and prepare for submission two mondays later, on the 18th. it looks good, but as you know, things have a wonderful way of going awry.

i had date #2 with the person. from my observations, and talking to a support community, i am now more inclined to believe that the person is autistic to some degree. it will take effort to see if that hypothesis is right, but the key things i have to do are treat them with respect, recognize that they are an adult as well, and to communicate wants and needs clearly and constantly. i will be honest - it does sound tiring, because it requires me to basically do most of the heavy lifting as far as communication goes. lucky i can be talkative if the situation requires. don't even know how i learnt that skill. i also have to be very careful in the way i word my questions and statements, because they interpret figures of speech very literally. the BPS boy was telling me he literally rolled out of his room when his mother told him "你给我滚出去!" the person didn't understand what i meant when i said "catch you later", which i often use as a farewell.

with this new information, i am less inclined to just be in this for the intimacy. this person said that they wanted to try being in a relationship, instead of just sleeping around. and i told them that i would try as hard as they did for as long as they were willing. newton's third law. it seems wrong to assume that the worst will happen, and just give up on the spot. currently, i have learnt a few new words - allistic or neurotypical as the antonym of autistic, instead of "normal" that most people would use as it's convenient. well, let's see how this goes. it could be a really good decision, or a really bad one. either way, it's more life experience, isn't it? have to say though, i still do have reservations. my batman sense is still giving off some warning signals, but i'll elaborate why on the next post. i'm overdue for bed.